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Originally Posted by Captainclock
That's the problem My mom forced me to give her my checking and savings account log-in information so that she can take a look at my bank account and see how I'm spending my money and she'll always ask me to give an account for what all of my purchases were, and what not, and I don't really have any choice in the matter, because the state forced me to make her my representative payee in order to move out of the house (which was rather dirty in my opinion) and because of my disabilities I get Social Security and my mom is in charge of that money and that's where I get my rent money from and what not. And actually I did try to threaten my mom concerning the money issue and she just ended up throwing a hissy fit at me and forced me to appologize to her and told me never to pull such a stunt again. So yeah my mom is kind of a control freak when it comes to my money, and the state didn't help matters any. 
As far as whether or not $75 is a good price for a parts VCR that's not my say, because like I said my mom will throw a fit if she sees that I've bought something like a parts VCR for even $30, and seeing as I wasn't able to find one single parts VCR for my VCR on ebay for under $50 including shipping costs, its not likely that I'll be able to get this VCR fixed anytime soon, even though when it was working properly it played excellently, and had beutiful picture and sound. |
Ouch! What a mess to be in...
I'd have probably stayed pissed and not given an inch when the hissy fit started. With control freaks and people who use emotional outbursts to get their way you need to meet their level of emotional response and exceed their level of resolve not to change your position....It takes a lot of energy to pitch fits and bully people and you can often wear such people out by being or appearing to be an immovable object on your positions. You can always give her major crap each time she gives you crap about your stuff. Another option is to get a different bank account elsewhere (or surreptitiously end her access to that account if she is not a co-signer of that account), NOT GIVE her the info to monitor your activity under any circumstances and change it so your paychecks go there...Heck threatening to do that may even be a bargaining chip to leverage fairness...The only money the state mandates she have a say over is disability (right?), so if she's bullying you so that you don't have control of money that is solely yours (what you work for), pull the rug out from under her and make it so she no longer has control of it...If she pitches a fit stand your ground, and if she threatens to do something substantially bad MAKE her agree to fair concessions to your rights to decide how it is spent in exchange for being cut back into the loop to the extent you think is fair and tell her that if she goes back on the agreement or oversteps her boundaries you'll do it again.
In life if you do not properly establish your boundaries, and adequately defend them you will be walked all over and owned...Overbearing parents tend to never really recognize their children as adults until their kids throw their weight around within their legal rights or they stop caring about their kids... I'd look over the law on that disability stuff and see if there is a way to cut her out of the loop on that too, or a good way to get off disability entirely so she no longer has a monetary leash to jerk you around with.